A little about me...

No one grows up dreaming of being a coach. At least not in the 1970s and 80s.

Instead I did everything “right”: got the straight As (no A stars in my day), the distinctions at law school and progressed through my firm to partnership.

But at age 30 I had my mid life crisis (I like to consider myself something of a prodigy at emotional breakdowns) and realised I’d been running from myself and the messy, beautiful, painful experience of being human since I was about 4 years old.

That set me on a path of personal growth with has spanned everything from intense trauma therapy and the 12 Steps, to Native American sweat lodges and a particulary disturbing yoga retreat where everyone suddenly got naked for no apparent reason. And everything in between.

Eventually I left the law, built a crazy sculpture and took it to Burning Man and came back to the UK 8 years later having been married to and (amicably) divorced from an American.

I’m now engaged to the love of my life, having survived the abject fuckery of midlife dating, two transatlantic moves and a number of career pivots.

In short, I know what it is to make monumental changes in your life. And, weirdly, I hate change. In almost all instances, I had to get to the point where the pain of remaining where I was outweighed the fear of taking a leap.

I’ve taken everything I’ve learned over the last 20 years - in my own life and through working with many clients and sponsees - and turned it into a methodology for changing what you don’t like about your life and feeling more alive and connected to yourself.

I believe in going deep to create lasting change and to have a full-spectrum experience of being a human on this crazy planet. But that doesn’t mean wallowing in trauma forever. Just facing things head on, doing what needs to be done and packing as much joy as possible into the whole process.

Even if the changes you are contemplating feel less monumental, they can still feel utterly terrifying when served with a side order of self doubt, guilt and general overwhelm.

Having a guide through this process - particularly one who has fallen down every pothole in the road so can steer you around them and hopefully help you see the funny side of even the darkest corners - makes all the difference.